By Taiye Elebiyo
Sapiosexuality is becoming more prevalent in this century, where people look beyond the demisexual and find other reasons to be with another person, which has nothing to do with gender, religion, or race.
Sapiosexuality has to do with intelligence and seeing your beautiful mind in another person.
Intelligence is the key factor in the new and modern sexuality revolution in the world, which goes beyond romantic, sexual, emotional, aesthetic, and physical attraction.
Over the years, Sapiosexuality has become a reality for many, in the sense that some people have discovered that the romantic, sexual, and physical attraction called demisexuality is not just enough for them anymore.
What attracts you to another person?
Can I say anything that makes you turn to look at a person the second time can be seen as physical attraction, anything that wants you to see the person again to discuss intellectually can be likely seen as intellectual attraction, anything that makes you want that person’s company over and over again can be an emotional attraction, anything that makes you want to have intercourse with the person over and over again is likely to be seen as sexual attraction because attraction formally is a power of evoking interest in someone, finding someone very attractive that you always want to be around, be it same gender or opposite gender, the various attraction you feel toward a person are classified into sexual attraction, romantic attraction, aesthetic attraction, physical attraction, emotional attraction and intellectual attraction.
Not all attraction is sexual.
Over the years, people have come to think that all attraction to the opposite gender is always sexual.
You may be sexually attracted to a person but have some other kind of attraction for another person; it does not mean that because you are sexually attracted to the person, you will feel all other attractions for the same person.
Being romantically attracted to a person is different from having a sexual attraction. A romantic attraction can last for years without a sexual relationship, but the feelings are stronger than a friend’s.
Some married people often find themselves in the pool, not sexually attracted in some cases but romantically and physically attracted to another, which is devoid of sexuality, which cannot be planned but avoided because we continue to meet people every step of the way. Still, we could choose to remain at a particular level of attraction, not making it graduate to another that we can’t control.
In a survey of 20 individuals, 19 of them indicated intellectual attraction as one of the keys appreciated over time in marriage, while emotional attraction was considered second. For some men, intellectual and physical attraction were key.
In the case of Joseph Clerk, “the temperament of a man determines what he gets attracted to; “Melancholy men are intellectually attracted to ladies, while Sanguine men are most often sexually and physically attracted to the opposite sex.” leading us to the new concept of attraction due to intelligence called Sapiosexual.
Have you wondered
Have you wondered why a man would marry an illiterate wife to whom he is physically and sexually attracted to, but once he gets a political position, he starts looking for a literate wife, searching for a woman he is intellectually attracted to as his first lady, which proves that other forms of attraction are not always enough. Ironically, those other forms of attraction always come first but gradually fade away in some relationships.
Have you also wondered why a man would leave a beautiful, gorgeous lady for an ugly-looking lady? Some would say it can only be an intellectual attraction that could bring about such a connection. So whatever relationship you seek, always consider Sapiosexual as a key aspect to look out for.
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